Diary of a Matchmaker

Published: November 7, 2025
with Hiba & Zaid

Let’s be real, porn is everywhere. And yes, Muslims are watching it too, way more than anyone admits. In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Fahad Khan, a clinical psychologist and an expert in Islamic psychology. We talk about why so many singles fall into it, how hard it’s become to get married, and how that mix messes with the mind, the heart, and even real attraction.

Whether you’ve struggled with it or you’re worried the person you’re talking to might be, this episode peels back the silence with an honest look at what’s happening and what it means for all of us trying to build real connections in a post-modern world.

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Episode chapters

[0:00] From Qur’an Class To Guest Intro
[2:00] Framing The Pornography Problem
[4:50] Why We Don’t Talk About It
[6:00] How Common Is Porn Use
[8:10] Red Flags And Pre‑Marriage Questions
[11:20] Does Marriage Fix The Habit
[14:10] Effects On Brains, Emotions, Intimacy
[18:20] Lesser Evil Rationalizations Challenged
[21:40] Unrealistic Expectations And Marital Strain
[26:00] Dopamine, Addiction Cycles, Depression
[30:20] A Multi‑Pronged Path To Recovery
[34:00] Encouraging Earlier, Easier Marriage
[37:10] Family Responses That Help Not Harm
[41:00] Community Patterns, Delayed Marriage, Harm
[44:20] You’re Not Alone: Practical Supports
[48:00] Islamic Vs Western Psychology Lens
[50:40] Resources, Therapists, Final Takeaways