When Can a Father’s Wilayah Be Taken Away?

Published: May 2, 2025
with Hiba & Zaid

What do you do when your dad turns into a one-man dating app filter… and swipes left on everyone? In this episode we’re talking about something major: when your father’s wilayah (guardianship) can actually be removed. Yep, it’s a thing, and it’s not taken lightly.

We’re diving into real stories, like the woman who aged out of her prime while her parents waited for Mr. Perfect Ethnic Match, and another whose mom basically ran the rejection department. We break down what wilayah is really supposed to be, how it’s misused, and what to do if you’re stuck in a no-win situation.

Hit download if you’ve ever wondered: Is this protection… or control? And send this to a friend who’s been “almost married” 17 times.

If our conversations made your search for love a little less chaotic, share the podcast with someone who could use it too. Every share keeps the love (and the laughs) going!

Episode chapters

[0:00] The Story of Perpetual Rejection
[4:02] Understanding Wilaya in Islamic Marriage
[7:35] Why Do Fathers Say No?
[12:10] Real-Life Examples of Parental Control
[18:00] Islamic Perspective on Abusive Wilaya
[21:45] Practical Steps for Difficult Situations
[25:43] Final Thoughts and Human Impact