Istikhara Myths That Need To Go

Published: May 9, 2025
with Hiba & Zaid

You made istikhara… now you’re just confused, dreamless, and wondering what’s next. Sound familiar? If you’re in the marriage search scene, you’ve probably bumped into the mysterious world of istikhara, or worse, been “istikhara’d” (aka ghosted with a religious excuse).

Today we’re breaking down what istikhara is really about: seeking goodness from Allah, not outsourcing your decisions. We’re busting myths and sharing real stories from our matchmaking experiences where istikhara was misused as an emotional escape hatch.

Whether you’re about to say yes to a proposal or just curious, this episode will help you make decisions with your heart, mind, and faith aligned. Plus we have a funny blooper for you to enjoy!

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Episode chapters

[0:00] What is Istikhara?
[6:15] Common Misconceptions About Istikhara
[14:17] How to Properly Perform Istikhara
[18:28] Interpreting Allah’s Answers to Istikhara
[23:53] Misusing Istikhara as an Excuse
[29:40] Finding Balance: Research, Consultation, and Trust