Diary of a Matchmaker

Published: August 15, 2025
with Hiba & Zaid

Think conflict management is only for married couples? Wrong. If you’re single and hoping for a healthy marriage, now is the time to learn it. In this episode, psychotherapist Kamela Salimi shares why conflict is the top issue she sees in couples therapy and how singles can prepare before saying “I do.” We unpack Dr. John Gottman’s “Four Horsemen” and their antidotes, explore how Islam offers built-in tools for emotional regulation long before therapy named them, and reveal why “freedom from the self” is key to lasting love. So say bismillah and hit Download.

Connect with Kamela:

https://www.kamelasalimi.com/

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Episode chapters

[0:00] Introduction to Our Special Guest
[2:10] The Four Horsemen of Relationship Conflict
[5:48] Contempt, Criticism and Their Antidotes
[11:30] Managing Different Conflict Styles
[18:33] Islamic Perspective on Conflict Resolution
[25:49] Self-Regulation During Heated Arguments
[33:08] Practical Advice for Singles Before Marriage
[48:53] Resources and Final Thoughts