Diary of a Matchmaker

Published: September 12, 2025
with Hiba & Zaid

Masculinity is either glorified or vilified, and single Muslims often pay the price. Women get told to avoid “dominant” men, while men are told to tone themselves down to avoid being toxic. The result? Confusion, frustration, and marriages built on false expectations.

In this conversation with Dr. Omar Husain, we confront the uncomfortable truths about masculinity in Islam. Men are challenged to stop outsourcing their growth and step into real responsibility. Women are pushed to look beyond smooth talk and test whether a man’s character is already rooted in faith.

If you think masculinity in Islam just means providing for the family, think again. This episode will make you question the assumptions shaping your search for marriage.

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Episode chapters

[0:43] Welcome to Diary of a Matchmaker
[1:38] Dr. Omar Husain Introduction
[5:38] Defining Islamic Masculinity
[10:07] Misconceptions About Masculinity
[15:11] Leadership in Marriage
[27:38] Service to Family
[36:18] Toxic Masculinity Explored
[46:30] Journey to Marriage Readiness
[51:22] Physical Fitness and Spiritual Growth
[54:27] Final Advice on Masculinity and Marriage