Diary of a Matchmaker

Published: October 17, 2025
with Hiba & Zaid

Have you ever been told to “lower your gaze” and wondered what that’s supposed to look like in 2025 when the hardest place to lower it isn’t the street, but your screen? One innocent scroll can turn into a full-blown spiral before you even realize it.

We’re talking about the subtle stuff: how comparison, curiosity, and constant exposure slowly shape what we find attractive, and how that ends up affecting real-life attraction, confidence, and even marriage expectations. Because it’s not just about modesty; it’s about protecting your focus in a world built to steal it. If you’ve ever felt torn between your values and the world you live in, this one will hit home.

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Episode chapters

[0:34] Why We Missed Last Week + Big News
[1:51] Growing Up Conservative: School Segregation
[3:28] What the Quran Actually Says
[6:44] The Modern Challenge: Temptation in Your Pocket
[8:56] Seerah Insight: Al‑Fadl and the Prophet
[10:42] Train the Algorithm: Curate Your Feed
[12:05] Aesthetics Trap in “Islamic” Content
[15:10] It’s for Both Genders, Not Just Men
[16:24] Attention-Seeking, Validation, and Selfies
[18:14] Desensitization and Unreal Beauty Standards
[19:38] Comparison Culture and Lost Simplicity
[21:04] Default No Mindset and Red Flags Hunting
[22:17] Modern Myths About Looking
[24:34] Women Lust Too: The Turkish Drama Era
[26:52] Practical Mercy: Slip, Reset, Realign